6/8/1966 – 5/30/2014
There are some people in this world that come and go way too quickly. For whatever reason, God has chosen to bring their souls back to his world, before we are ready to let them go from ours. But while they were here on this earth, they touched so many hearts that it’s impossible to forget them or even attempt to fully let go. Chrissy was one of these souls.
Below are some memories and tributes to Chris from her husband, her family, friends, and from the Lyme community in which she was a cherished member that we all miss so much.
Tribute to Chrissy from her Husband
I was lucky enough to have Chris as my wife. We only had 7 years together and were married for four. She was sick for about six and a half of those years. And yet through all of her pain she was still the brightest, toughest most loving person I have ever met. I know people say that sort of thing when someone they love has died. But what I mean is she literally loved other people more than herself. She would always say the right thing because she always, always thought about what effect her words would have on the person she was talking to. Lyme took that away.
When we first met I fell in love with a true social butterfly. She bloomed in the presence of people she liked, or loved. After Lyme and Babseia began taking over more and more Chris’ world began to get smaller and smaller. Visitors were just too much for her. Just me, her Mom and our dear friend John, Chris’ first husband who also has Lyme and Bartenella.
Lyme and Babesia took everything from Chris, including our future together. Chris would often say “what did I do wrong to deserve this?” And I would say “nothing Sweety, it’s just bad luck, the way the hand was dealt.”
Chris fought so hard that I can’t even comprehend it. every day was a struggle to do the smallest tasks, and when she did have good days, she would do research about her disease. My Chrissy was a hard worker all of her life. But lyme took that away.
So today marks two weeks since Chris passed over. And I’m left alone, with a hole in my heart and an empty bed. And our pets with no one to take care of when I’m not home. Our life together was beautiful and loving and was the reason I got up in the morning. But lyme took that away.
Tributes to Chrissy from her Family
From Ellen Morbelli: (Chrissy’s mom) Today is the anniversary of Chrissy’s
escape from her pain and suffering. Although we have missed her so much this past year, we know she is in a better place. I am blessed that I was chosen to be her mother. Knowing that I will never hold her in my arms and comfort her is beyond sadness. And yet, today we must celebrate her life and all that she overcame. And we must celebrate her escape from a life she could no longer bear. Hurray to you Chrissy!
Remembering Chris Morbelli-Meister-Urbanowski…could I ever forget?! OK, here goes.
Her laugh. It was infectious. Even if you didn’t think it was all that funny, when Chris laughed, you had to laugh, too.
Her determination. Once she made up her mind to do something, there was no stopping her!
Her caring. If someone needed help, no matter what, she found a way to help.
Her art. This was the heart and soul of my daughter. If she painted the bathroom or a magnificent picture, she put everything she had into it.
Her love of life. She loved her family–sisters, nieces, nephews, parents, brothers-in-law, uncles, aunts, cousins. She loved her friends. And she was never afraid to show it.
I think anyone who knew her misses her. But if we keep remembering all the wonderful things about her we won’t be so sad. Let’s try to remember the joy and comfort she brought into our lives. Let’s remember how awesome she was! ~Ellen Morbelli
Sue Morbelli Bell: (Chris’s sister) There is symbolism in the square that I made. Yellow was her favorite color growing up and blue was mine. The green dots on my blue heart are the holes in my heart from missing her so much, the flowers are just because I needed to make it pretty for her and she knows that she got all the artistic talent. She was such a fighter through her 18 years of fighting this disease and coinfections. All of the treatments and pain that she endured were more than a person should ever have to deal with and was so unfair that it chose her.
Sue Morbelli Bell: She was my hero because she never wanted any pity from anyone and fought so hard to get well. I really thought she would. We made plans.
This quilt square was made in honor of Chris Urbanowski.
To Learn more about the Lyme Quilt please click here.
Chris Morbelli-Urbanowski was my friend. My sister. My mentor. My partner in crime. My sounding board and my wailing wall. Her humor and sarcasm shaped the person I have become. In the best times and the worst, she was always there for me. She was one of the strongest people I know and yet there was always something fragile about her. Her love and her light made me a better person and my world a better place. A part of her spirit lives on in those who were lucky enough to know and be loved by her but my world is a little darker for not having her in it. I will always miss her. ~Lisa Pryma
Tributes to Chrissy from Friends
“You’ve been constantly on my mind these last few days. I don’t think I’ve ever known someone so delicate, so fragile and yet so strong. It seems like you were made of lace forged in steel.
When I think of the battle you fought I wonder if I could hold up half as well. Through all your suffering you remained kind, not bitter, so very funny and honest. Sometimes your honesty hurt because knowing you were in agony and being unable to help take it away was like a knife in my heart.
I’m so sorry you had to go through all this. No one deserves that! I try to imagine that right before you left us you felt free and for that fleeting moment your spirit soared.
I miss you, Sugar Britches. ♡” ~ Gigipreet Poutine
“Chris was a friend to so many on Facebook. She was in all the Lyme support groups and she was one you could always count on for a little humor. We all love you so much Chris. I turned to you more then once and we had many good chats many a nights. I pray you are at peace now friend. <3” ~Lisa Hilton
Although a few of us in this group share the same story of how we met Chris, each one of us knows it differently, because she rescued each one of us at different times and in different ways.
I ‘met’ Chris quite by accident in 2011 after being unceremoniously dumped out of a Lyme patient group … quite a few of us found ourselves in the same predicament and Chris went about righting that wrong by gathering us together in one place.
Over the weeks/months/years we all became incredibly close, sharing everything from “what’s for dinner” to purchasing juicers and celebrating or mourning life’s circumstances … whatever they were for us.
Last night I reread a lot of communications between the two of us, and group of us … the last one being on the 29th of last year. She said she was trying to hang in there, that the doctors had messed up her meds, and that it was hard.
Rereading three and a half years worth of a relationship made me realize how although Chris had an occasional good day … her life on this planet was miserable, and she longed for it to be over. But despite that she met each day with humor, with compassion for all, and with great love.
How blessed I am to be one of her friends!! ~ Ruth James
If you would like to read Chris’s story in her own words, please click here.