Old Body/Old Car Adage
Let’s say when we all turned 16 and got our very first car that, that would have to be our car for the rest of our lives. So knowing you only have this one car, what would you do each time broke down or you noticed it not running smoothly? You would take it to an auto mechanic right?
Now let’s say over time your car is starting to have more issues, more rust, worn tires… It starts changing from regular car trouble that random “tune ups’ would fix, into needing more specialty care. Maybe it needs a new transmission, or the starter gave out and it needs a new starter? Maybe you drove it a little too hard or long without changing the oil on time and some issues are starting? You would start to need to go to the bypass the Jiffy Lube and head to a Master mechanic.” Right? Because you know, a normal oil change or tune up isn’t going to help these “specific problems.”
No matter what, you would keep seeking out different mechanics that could help you with your more advanced needs right? And that would be ok, nobody would judge you for that. After all, it’s the only car you will have for your whole life so you have to do what you have to do to keep it running.
So why with our bodies, with our health, should it be any different?
Why when you have a chronic illness such as Lyme disease, Fibromyalia, ME/CFS are you looked at like a hypochondriac? An attention seeker? A doctor shopper? This is a very frustrating and intimidating truth for those who suffer from chronic illnesses.
We are born with this one body, for life. When we start having aches and pains you are taught to go to the doctor. The doctor will prescribe medicine or bandage something and send you on your way where you usually go home and heal. End of story.
But sometimes or over time, something a little more serious might happen. Let’s say you get appendicitis. It would be totally normal to make a quick visit to the ER for help, who in turn will probably send you to a specialist such as a surgeon to operate and remove your appendix. So in this case it is socially acceptable to go to that surgeon or specialist doctor, right? It is ok to seek out special more advanced help from someone more knowledgeable. Insurance will even pay for it.
This is all fine and dandy and runs smoothly as long as you know what the problem is. But once there seems to be a more complicated issue, one that doctors don’t seem to understand or even have any information about, there tends to be a stigma and it becomes, “the patient’s fault.”
The more doctors you seek out for help, because you are really only wanting to feel better, the more you tend to get judged. You will start hearing terms such as, “it’s all in your head,” “doctor shopping,” “drug addict,” “hypochondriac,” “somatization disorder,” “mental illness,” and “Munchausen by proxy syndrome .”
So why is the human body, the human being, not considered as important as a car? Why is their any judgement at all about someone being sick? Is it a matter of pride? Doctors don’t want to admit they don’t know everything and they don’t have answers for us? Is it a matter of no one has time to deal with us and it’s easier to just push us away or send us off to some other doctor or psychiatrist to deal with? Why?
Does the medical community and societies not recognize that over the years new problems, new illnesses, new viruses and stealth pathogens are going to infect us and persist and we are going to have to come up with new ways of care and their old standards, old protocols, old opinions are not going to stand anymore?
Why are we in trouble for having a disease that they do not understand? Why are the medical societies not putting together teams to help research us, help us, cure us?
I am going to end this article with this question and hope that one day soon, we have answers. ♥