Suicide Prevention

There are two sides to the subject of suicide. The ones who are considering it, and the ones who are trying to help the other person to not do it. Being involved in a support group for chronically ill people I see way too much suicide. I see both sides. I see people feeling helpless to help people and not knowing what to do. I also see people wanting to reach out to others when they are feeling this way but they are either too embarrassed or already feeling too judged to do so and they don’t feel safe or comfortable reaching out. I hope that this lens will help both sides of people.



Just My Two Cents

On Suicide

I am writing this article because I have watched several of my friends go down this path. I have seen first hand what suicide does to the family of these people who commit suicide and I have seen how it rips away the lives of friends who felt like they didn’t have hope.

I am also not naive to how real the pain can be and how cliche some of the things on this page might sound. I have been where you are. I have wanted to die. I have also tried to end it. I didn’t succeed, obviously but I am only telling you so that you don’t think, man this person doesn’t know what they are talking about…there is no way somebody distracting me with funny movies, or listening to music, or someone stopping over and doing my dishes is going to stop these suicidal feelings, they are too deep. Right?

Well the thing is, I’m not just trying to help just YOU, the suicidal person. I am also trying to help the others around you that you are about to hurt. And I know with most of you, it is not the intent to hurt others by this choice, not at all. But, you will. Sometimes we feel like we are relieving them of a burden, by leaving them. But I’ll get to that in a minute. You see, I am trying to help them know from the stand point of the “suicidal person” know what it is that we might need. Sometimes, we just don’t want to feel like a big pain in the butt. Sometimes we don’t want to feel ugly or invisible, or like our “suffering” will never end. Sometimes we think you are the one that’s selfish for wanting to keep us here, to do nothing but suffer.

And I can totally relate to wanting to end life because of chronic suffering that seems like it will never end. I have always been on the side of Dr Kevorkian. I can understand when someone is terminal and suffering and is not going to get any better, and if they weren’t being kept alive, they would slowly suffer and die and they want to end it peacefully. I get that. After all isn’t this what we do to our animals? When they are sick and suffering we euthanize them, right?

Well the thing is, in many cases, this is not the case. Many of the people who commit suicide aren’t terminal, and aren’t going to suffer endlessly forever. In these cases sometimes the person just needs a reason to want to live again. They want to feel loved or needed, or like they aren’t the biggest burden to ever walk the earth. Because that’s what things like chronic illness, or being “different” in some way, or having mental illness can make you feel like.

You’d be surprised how much a little action like bringing over groceries to someone who is agorophobic, or dropping by someones apartment to do someone who is chronically ill’s dishes, or putting a message saying, “I am thinking of you and miss you,” on someone who is lonely’s Facebook wall could do. I’ts the little things in life that count. And when you are locked away from society because of physical or mental illness, or shunned because you are gay, or weigh more, or whatever it is that is making you feel so depressed, you lose out on these “little things” that are so precious and that other people take for granted.

We need to be reminded that we still count.

~Lisa Hilton




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Don’t Be Afraid To Reach Out


National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
This website deals with the effects that bullying has on people. If you or someone you know is in an emotional distress or suicidal crisis, please call the Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
American Foundation For Suicide Prevention
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) is the leading national not-for-profit organization exclusively dedicated to understanding and preventing suicide through research, education and advocacy, and to reaching out to people with mental disorders and those impacted by suicide.
SAVE was one of the nation’s first organizations dedicated to the prevention of suicide and was a co-founding member of the National Council for Suicide Prevention. Our history and growth from an all-volunteer, small grassroots group of passionate survivors led us to what is one of today’s leading national not-for-profit organizations with staff dedicated to prevent suicide. This site, along with our work, is based on the foundation and belief that suicide should no longer be considered a hidden or taboo topic and that through raising awareness and educating the public, we can SAVE lives.
NIMH~ National Institute of Mental Health
Mission~ The mission of NIMH is to transform the understanding and treatment of mental illnesses through basic and clinical research, paving the way for prevention, recovery, and cure.
For the Institute to continue fulfilling this vital public health mission, it must foster innovative thinking and ensure that a full array of novel scientific perspectives are used to further discovery in the evolving science of brain, behavior, and experience. In this way, breakthroughs in science can become breakthroughs for all people with mental illnesses. A Trusted Non Profit Resource was launched in 1999, following the suicide of Robert and Jeanne Segal’s daughter, Morgan. We believe that Morgan’s tragedy could have been avoided if she had access to well-written professional information that gave her a sense of hope and direction. In the past 12 years this website has grown from a small local project to an internationally recognized resource now serving 1 million visitors weekly.

Suicide Related Articles

Killing Me Softly : FM/CFS & Suicide
Lisa Lorden Myers, a CFS/fibromyalgia patient from California, is a well-known writer. For three years, she was the Guide to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia at This article was originally published in Fibromyalgia Frontiers, the journal of the National Fibromyalgia Partnership.
The Anatomy of Hope
Hope for CFIDS and Fibromyalgia
Suicide in America: Frequently Asked Questions
A brief overview of the statistics on depression and suicide with information on depression treatments and suicide prevention
Older Adults: Depression and Suicide Facts (Fact Sheet)
Statistics on depression and suicide in older adults, with information on depression treatments and suicide prevention
Recognizing Those Who Have Served
The NIMH/U.S.Army Study to Assess Risk and Resilience in Soldiers (Army STARRS) project enrolled over 25,000 soldiers in the past year to develop a risk calculator for PTSD, depression, and suicide, similar to what we use today for heart disease.
American Association of Suicidology
The goal of the American Association of Suicidology (AAS) is to understand and prevent suicide.
Befrienders~ Hotlines by State
Need to talk? Need a friend? Befrienders
Befrienders listen to people who are lonely, despairing or considering suicide. They don’t judge them, don’t tell them what to do. They listen. That may not sound much – but it can make the difference between life and death.
Why Should I Go On?
Living with Chronic Illness: Why Should I Go On?
by Stephen Schmidt
Stephen Schimidt is professor of religious studies at Mundelein College in Chicago.
One in 10 suicides linked to chronic illness, study finds
At least one person takes their life every day while suffering from a chronic or terminal illness, and the government is neglecting this hidden trend, the thinktank Demos has said.
TRANSFORM YOUR CHRONIC LIFE Are you tired of feeling sick & and miserable all the time?
Fibromyalgia Increases Suicide Risk – Chronic Illness, Stress, and Depression Part II

Mental Health Links

Anxiety Disorders
Publications about Anxiety Disorders
Borderline Personality Disorder
Publications about Borderline Personality Disorder
Eating Disorders
Overview of Eating Disorders
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Overview of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Find current clinical trials on Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Panic Disorder
Overview of Panic Disorder
Find current clinical trials on Schizophrenia
Coping with Traumatic Events
Overview of Coping with Traumatic Events
Men’s Mental Health
Symptoms and Treatment of Depression
Women’s Mental Health
Examing mental issues and stressors in womens lives.
Depressed Moms
NIH Encourages Depressed Moms to Seek Treatment for Themselves

3 thoughts on “Suicide Prevention”

  1. First, I think there is more than a qualitative difference between someone who impulsively takes their life while being overwhelmed versus someone who has been ill for years and has now crossed over to dealing with multiple systemic vulnerabilities.

    People with Lyme are never going to get the objective luxury of being declared “terminal” as someone might be with cancer (where we have an enormous medical complex selling last grasp interventions). Each case is complicated by unique individual factors, there isn’t as much scholarly research as with other “recognized” diseases, and patients are guinea pigs at best. Even in cases where there may be hope and coordinated care (as exists for other diseases), I wouldn’t blame a person with Lyme for not embracing a doctor’s opinion. By the time someone is really down for the count, they’ve heard numerous promises and theories, and all they want is relief.

    It is always difficult losing a close loved one, but why are there such ardent demands that others suffer for us? Yes, there is always hope, hope for a cure, hope for a windfall to avert financial destruction, but it is like selling wining Lotto as probable relief. People typically don’t do that because of the known low probability, but with people with late stage Lyme complications, we seem to want them to enter into a peculiar type of denial, one that denies them the dignity of control over one of the few remaining things they may have control over.

    To me it suggests another kind of mental illness, one that is inflicted by well-meaning supporters who are unwilling or unable to face reality, but instead want to draw others into their delusion, adding guilt or shame to the mix as an extra measure of precaution.

    1. HHAHHAHAH Right when I went to this site, I thought there would be a BIG, BOLD letter phone number to call. Nope, None. Thanks.

      1. This number is listed in the post above… National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
        This website deals with the effects that bullying has on people. If you or someone you know is in an emotional distress or suicidal crisis, please call the Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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